Afraid Of Commitment In Love
Today more than ever, you hear about couples who are only together for a short time. Commitment seems to be missing from many relationships. For some people, the very word commitment is a frightening prospect that they simply can’t comprehend.
With so many reality shows on television touting the lifestyle of the single dating crowd, it’s no wonder so many people struggle to base their relationships on commitment and love.
In order to have a committed relationship, a couple must first have an understanding of what they believe true commitment is. For one couple it might mean not associating with members of the opposite sex alone. For another, it might mean being faithful and loyal to their lover.
Regardless of the definition, it’s up to each individual couple to define their own personal belief with one another. A committed relationship is usually monogamous. It is not a ‘love triangle’. It is one man and one woman.
For anyone who is unsure of their relationship, the very word commitment is a no go. There is no way that they could be committed if one or the other in the couple is unsure.
A relationship takes time to build it up. It takes knowing a person well before they can be committed. It is all about believing in that person. If this phase is rushed it can be very damaging to the relationship. Most people get that they can’t be committed if they don’t know the other person well.
If a person is holding on to the desire for ‘something better’ they are going to be afraid of commitment. If they have been hurt in the past they may also be afraid of commitment. They may have misgivings and be fearful that the past will repeat itself.
When a person is afraid that the past will repeat itself, they are often looking for love in the wrong places. They are choosing the same types of partner over and over. In order to break the cycle, they need to sit down and write out what they want in a relationship and go find that.
True commitment will come naturally if a person is ready for it. It won’t be something that they even have to consider. If a person is afraid of commitment, they need to sit down and analyse what they are really afraid of. If they are afraid something better will come along, they may not be with the right person to begin with.